Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Social media is becoming an indispensable component of people’s life. More and more people prefer to communicate with others through using social media. We should admit that social media bring many benefits in people’s life. One of the initial benefits of social media is the low cost, and it is good for business in particular. When businesses use social media, it can create and distribute promotional material, and then provide you with more opportunities to entice others to link to content.
Further more, comparing with the traditional media, social media is more global reach. Traditional media can reach a global audience but this is usually very costly and time-consuming. Through social media, people around the world can get information as soon as possible without worrying about the geographical location and time. They can always get information firsthand. Also, social media stats are immediately measurable, whereas traditional media figures often need to be monitored over a long period of time. Last but not the least, social media’s adaptability makes content management generally more flexible. Information can be updated, altered, supplemented and discussed in a way completely unknown to a printed advertisement, a newspaper article or magazine feature. What is more, information can be published in seconds, making it possible for businesses to ensure that their content is always up to date — a condition to a more prominent spot in the search engine rankings.
As for our students, social media can broaden our horizon and enrich our knowledges and give more opportunities to participate in more activities which is really good for ourselves. However, no one is perfect, social media is not perfect, either. It also brings some disadvantages. Social media occupies so many times in people’s life, some of them get illness because of using social media for a long time without resting. Though the news through social media can be very fast, sometimes we cannot figure out whether this news is real or faked by someone else. The following article will tell us how Facebook has changed adoption and sometimes this kind of change is not always for the better. The following article would like to give some examples to indicate that how social media will bring some disadvantages for people.
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Benevolent Society urges caution in use of social media for reunions
Rachel Browne AUGUST 25 2016
Social media has changed the way adoptees and their birth family members are reconnecting, but not always for the better.
Networking sites such as Facebook and LinkedIn have made it easier to track people down but the manager of the Benevolent Society’s Post Adoption Resource Centre has urged caution.
Adoptee Peter Jolly met his birth mother but they did not maintain a relationship. Photo: Janie Barrett
Anjanette Humphreys said there had been an increase in calls from adult adoptees who had been contacted by birth parents via social media and vice versa.
“It is a minefield,” she said. “There is a lot of Facebook stalking going on. We do get contacted by people who have received messages through social media and it can often come as a huge shock.
“We would caution people to think very carefully before launching headlong into social media as it’s not always the best medium to use. It can often lead to more trauma and grief.”
The Post Adoption Resource Centre was established 25 years ago when laws changed to allow better access to past adoption records.
In that time it has conducted 70,000 counselling sessions and mediated 1800 reunions but Ms Humphreys warns not all have fairytale endings.
“Most people are well intentioned when they make an approach to a family member,” she said.
“The approach may not lead to a meeting or an ongoing relationship and people need to be prepared for that possibility. Not every reunion has a happy ending.”
Peter Jolly was adopted by a couple in Brisbane in 1959 and learnt he was not their biological child when he was six. He applied for his adoption records in 1991 but resisted meeting his birth family: “I never wanted to meet my mother; I was worried about being rejected again.”
After a period of personal upheaval, the disability support worker contacted PARC, which helped him arrange a meeting with his mother.
“We met but that was very challenging,” he said. “It didn’t take me long to realise we were on totally different pages and we weren’t going to be OK.”
Catherine Smith (not her real name) was born in the 1960s and describes the couple who adopted her as “the best parents anyone could wish for” but says she always sensed something was lacking.
“You live your life on the periphery on many levels because you don’t have genetic markers,” Ms Smith said. “So much of your identity and self worth is related to where you come from.”
When her adoptive father died four years ago, she contacted PARC, which supported her in tracing and meeting her birth mother.
“There was so much grief,” she said. “It was the toughest thing I have ever done in my life.
“People trying to find each other by Facebook or LinkedIn – that just frightens me to death. It’s so complicated even if you think you have it under control. The process nearly destroyed me but in one way I am fortunate in that at least I have some answers. Many people never get that.”
The majority of adoptions in Australia are “open”, where the child has access to information about their background and contact with birth family members but Ms Humphreys said many still struggle with issues around their identity.
“In the case of open adoption there is less secrecy but our experience in working with families is that there is still a lot of pain and grief on all sides,” she said.
Author: Rachel Browne
Source: The Sydney Morning Herald (SMH)